The 3 Versions of You That End Up Procrastinating

You ever catch yourself wondering, “Why can’t I just get it together?”

One day you’re powering through like a machine.
The next, you’re numbing out with your phone, avoiding everything.
Then comes the guilt spiral… and the freeze.

If you’ve ever felt like you're constantly becoming different versions of yourself just to survive the week, you’re not alone. And you’re not broken.

In fact, there are 3 patterns I see over and over again in the women I work with: high-functioning, self-aware, and quietly overwhelmed.

And chances are, you’ll recognize yourself in at least one of them:

1. The Overfunctioner

You keep moving. You stay busy. You do all the things.
But you’re running on fumes and you know it.
Your to-do list is a mile long, but your soul feels… empty.

Under the surface: You're living in a constant state of urgency and self-pressure. Productivity has become your coping mechanism. Not because you're "so driven," but because stopping feels unsafe. Stillness feels like failure.

And as a result, the important stuff never actually gets done.

2. The Avoider

You want to start. You know what needs to be done.
But somehow, everything feels heavier than it should.

You procrastinate. You scroll. You clean random corners of your house. And then beat yourself up for it.

Under the surface: Avoidance is your nervous system’s way of protecting you from overwhelm, perfectionism, or fear of failure. It’s not laziness. It’s fear dressed in freeze.

3. The Frozen One

You don’t even know what you feel anymore.
You’re tired in a way that sleep doesn’t fix.
Even when nothing is technically wrong, something feels... off.

Under the surface: This is the crash. The cumulative impact of months (or years) of pushing through, self-abandonment, and emotional overload. Your system is waving the white flag.

What You Need to Hear

These aren’t personal flaws.
They’re protective patterns. Survival responses.

The truth is, if you’ve never learned how to work with your brain and body — your only option has been overcompensating, avoiding, or shutting down.

You don’t need to “fix” yourself.
You need tools that match how you actually function.

Your Way Back Starts Here

The first step?
Start exactly where you are, without shame.

Ask yourself: What’s my “bare minimum” version of progress today?
Not the perfect 30-minute habit.
Not the 0-or-100 version.
But the 3-minute one. The baby step. The soft restart.

That’s how you rebuild self-trust. That’s how momentum begins.