Stop Waiting to Feel Motivated.
Let me ask you something.
When was the last time you felt genuinely pulled toward something?
Not because of a deadline. Not because someone told you to.
But because you wanted it. Deeply. Authentically.
Now ask yourself this—How often does that feeling actually lead to action? How often does that spark of desire… get buried under dread, doubt, or overwhelm?
If you're like most people I work with, the answer is: way too often.
You care. You try. But something inside keeps stalling out.
And it’s easy to start thinking, “Maybe I’m just not disciplined enough. Maybe I need more willpower.”
But I want to offer a completely different lens.
What if motivation isn’t something you either have or don’t have?
What if it’s a process—one that depends on specific emotional ingredients that you can actually work with?
I want to share the core framework I teach my clients—the equation that finally helped me understand why motivation kept slipping through my fingers. Because sustainable motivation doesn’t come from shame.
It doesn’t come from hype.
It comes from something much deeper: desire, meaning, and agency.
Let’s break that down.
SECTION 1 – What Is Sustainable Motivation, Really?
Most people treat motivation like it’s either a lightning strike or a moral test.
You’re either lucky enough to feel inspired—or you’re lazy.
But motivation isn’t random. And it’s not a character trait.
It’s a relationship between three things:
What you want
Why it matters
And whether you believe you can move toward it
When even one of those breaks down, motivation stalls.
When all three are aligned? Action flows—naturally, sustainably, and without force.
This is what I call the Motivation Equation:
Desire + Meaning + Agency = Sustainable Motivation
Let’s break each one down with real-life examples—so you can start seeing where your own motivation might be misfiring.
SECTION 2 – Desire: The Spark That Can’t Be Forced
Desire is the part of you that says:
“I want this—not because I have to, but because something in me lights up at the thought of it.”
But for many of us, desire got buried a long time ago.
If you grew up in environments where only achievement was praised, or where your needs were too often dismissed, you probably learned that wanting was risky.
You learned to chase expectations instead of tuning into curiosity.
So even now, when you can choose, you might not know what you actually want.
Or maybe you’ve convinced yourself that your goals are yours… but they’re really just internalized pressure in disguise.
To reconnect with real desire, you need to start small. What feels good? What energizes you—even a little?
This is less about fireworks, and more about a quiet pull.
The kind of pull that’s easy to ignore… until you learn how to listen for it.
SECTION 3 – Meaning: The Emotional Why
Desire is the spark. But meaning is the fuel.
It’s what makes effort feel worth it.
It’s the emotional backbone of your goal—why it actually matters to you.
Take this example:
Two people might both want to start a creative project.
One feels pressure to “finally be productive.”
The other wants to reconnect with their sense of identity after years of survival mode.
Same task. Completely different emotional weight.
When you’re clear on your why, the path becomes more resilient.
Setbacks don’t hit as hard. Resistance doesn’t win as often.
Because you’re not doing it to prove something. You’re doing it to come home to yourself.
So if motivation keeps breaking down for you—ask:
What’s the deeper meaning I’ve been missing here?
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If you want help uncovering your own motivation map—what you really care about and how to move toward it without pressure or guilt—
I made a free guide to walk you through exactly that. It’s called the Self-Trust Guide, and it breaks down the path to figuring out what YOU WANT so this kind of change is possible today. It’s totally free and designed to help you stop spinning and start reconnecting with what actually moves you.
SECTION 4 – Agency: The Belief That You Can Move
This final piece—agency—is the one most people miss.
Even if you want something…
Even if it matters deeply…
You still won’t take action if you don’t believe you can make progress.
Agency isn’t about being fearless.
It’s about believing that your actions matter.
And that belief is fragile.
If you’ve failed before, or been criticized for trying, or lived through experiences that made you feel powerless—your sense of agency takes a hit.
Your nervous system starts bracing for disappointment, even before you start.
So you stall. You freeze. You avoid.
Building agency means practicing trust:
Trust in your capacity to figure things out
Trust that progress doesn’t have to be perfect
Trust that starting small counts
It means celebrating micro-wins.
It means choosing “possible” over “perfect.”
This is the piece that brings it all together.
Because when you feel capable of moving toward something that matters, and you actually want it—motivation becomes less of a mystery, and more of a current you can ride.
If this framework spoke to you—if you see yourself in the breakdown between desire, meaning, and agency—then I want to invite you to take the next step.
I offer a free discovery call where we’ll look at your personal motivation map—what’s missing, what’s misaligned, and what needs to be rebuilt.
You don’t need to push harder.
You need a new kind of support.
So if you’re ready to stop calling yourself lazy, and start building a system that actually works for your brain, your nervous system, and your life—book a call here.
We’ll talk through your story and explore whether my program is the right next step for you.
Either way, you’ll leave the call with clarity.
